Concepts (page 30)
- Self-Binding
Self-binding is deliberately and willingly putting literal barriers between yourself and the thing you overconsume, in order to mitigate compulsive overconsumption. Anna Lembke's taxonomy in…
- Self-Compassion
Self-compassion is treating your own failures the way you would treat a friend's. Kristin Neff defined it in 2003 as three things: kindness instead of judgment, recognising that failure is common to…
- Self-Completion Theory
People who are pursuing an identity, not just a task, are collecting two things at once: the thing itself, and the standing of being someone who does it. Self-completion theory holds that the…
- Self-Continuity
Self-continuity is the sense that the person you were and the person you are belong to one life. It is one of the functions nostalgia reliably serves, alongside self-esteem, optimism, meaning in…
- Self-Criticism
Self-criticism is the habit of attacking yourself for falling short, as distinct from noticing that you fell short. Its defining move is the jump from "I did a bad thing" to "I am a bad thing"…
- Self-Determination Theory
Self-determination theory is Deci and Ryan's account of why some motivation lasts and most does not. Three psychological needs do the work: autonomy, acting in line with your own values; competence…
- Self-Disclosure
Self-disclosure is talking about yourself, and the finding is that it is rewarding in itself rather than merely useful. Diana Tamir and Jason Mitchell reported in 2012 that disclosing information…
- Self-Distanced Self-Talk
Self-distanced self-talk is talking to yourself using your own name or the word "you" instead of "I". "Faisal, why are you upset about this?" rather than "why am I upset about this?" The pronoun…
- Self-Distancing
Self-distancing is thinking about your own experience from outside it, as an observer would, rather than from behind your own eyes. It is a change of camera angle, not a change of subject, and it is…
- Self-Efficacy
Self-efficacy is a person's belief that they can carry out a specific behaviour in a specific situation. Albert Bandura's construct is narrow by design: not general confidence, not self-esteem, but…
- Self-Monitoring
Self-monitoring is a stable individual difference in how much a person reads a social situation and adjusts their behaviour to fit it. High self-monitors notice the cues for what is appropriate here…
- Self-Regulation vs Self-Control
Self-control is what you do at the moment of temptation: an impulse arrives and you inhibit it. Self-regulation is upstream of that, the management of stress load, arousal and recovery so that fewer…